It's mine

So the problem with "It's Mine!" is that it flys in the face of the supposed nature of motherhood. As a mother, you are supposed to be alturistic, selfless, giving. But damnit if it ain't mine. Like when Carter is staring at my food with the expectation that he is going to get it. To which I huff puff and say its mine. Or how bout last night when we were going out to dinner at the stupidest time possible- traffic time. So we got stuck in traffic, but the best part was that the kids fell asleep and while they were napping in the car and we were all chugging along with the flow (or lack) of traffic, my husband was mine. Mine mine mine. I could talk to him without anyone else inturrupting or needing something from him. He was mine. If more mothers take this attitude, perhaps there would be lots more happy mom's. For example, the nice outfit that we decided to wear against all better judgement, we'll it's mine. It's mine, I chose to wear it, I want it to stay nice, so damn it if you get it dirty, I'm going to get mad! Am I teaching my child to be selfish? No, I'm just not spoiling them nor am I compromising what I want. And isn't this what the focus should be instead of one of those great ultimate mothering acts of giving everything to your child. Damn spoiled children is all you get from that. Besides, if we say- no it's my time to spend on the computer doing what i damn well please- then our children will figure out how to be self sufficient, self-directed and entertained. So thats that